Pregnancy and birthing stories
Kathryn's birthing story
I just wanted to say a huge thank you to the absolutely fantastic Vivien. Your classes have been such an important part of my pregnancy and preparation for having a baby. All your wisdom and support helped me to have the best birth experience when my daughter decided to arrive towards the end of May 2017.
She had pretty much the perfect birth; I got everything I could have possibly hoped for and more. I had a natural birth, at home in a birthing pool. I was comfortable throughout most of the first stage, pottering around the house, rocking on the ball or resting upright while trying to keep my head in check, listening to your yoga music. Contractions became more intense but still manageable without any drugs; I took just two paracetamols but had lots of extra help from massage, hot water bottles, tens and then the pool itself. When approaching second stage, you helped me follow my instinct and do what I wanted – which was an overwhelming urge to get into the birth pool. Then I can honestly say that I felt wonderful. I managed to ‘breathe my daughter down’ with no conscious pushing at all. I had practiced the ‘J breath’ you taught us but don’t think I actually expected to pull it off!
I’m so grateful that you were able to come for the birth – I felt so completely surrounded by support, reassurance and love. My husband also felt really involved (and he was quite useful!) by doing the things you had talked about at a birth preparation workshop (for instance, light touch massage) and when you gave him some tips to help out – the saucepan of hot water sploshed on my lower back felt really lovely.
I do feel very lucky that I had what you described in classes as a ‘golden ticket’. Although, having had so many birth prep sessions and yoga practices with you, I feel very confident that I would have had a good birth experience even if things had been different and it hadn’t gone to plan A. There are so many things that you have taught me that were useful, particularly the breathing, staying in the right room and being totally ‘non-resistant’. And you’re definitely right that they are skills for life; not just childbirth… I was using the throat breathing just yesterday to help get some rest, calm my head and settle my daughter who had been up feeding/squirming with wind and crying for a couple of hours in the middle of the night.
There is nothing I can say that will thank you enough for what you have given me. I can only tell every pregnant lady I know: how invaluable your lessons are, to go to as many classes as possible and what a great and fun way they are to spend Saturday mornings with a bump and lots of other lovely ladies! 😊
Laura's & pregnancy yoga
"Thankfully we became pregnant and at 15 weeks when I felt a bit more confident with the pregnancy I decided to do some yoga and that's where I came across the amazing Vivien Tallis. I immediately fell in love with her style of yoga teaching and her relaxing and soul strengthening session was just what I needed once a week to help me feel connected to the little person growing inside me ... I was wanted to say a HUGE THANK YOU to Vivien. "
Jess's birthing story
"I wanted to share with you my birthing experience...
The birth of my daughter, Nancy, began at 3am on Wednesday 30th November – a little earlier than expected but within the ‘full term’ date range.
I wasn’t sure at first whether it was the beginning of labour as it started with the ‘show’ or mucus plug, and I’d read that that can come and then there are still days before labour begins. I hadn’t had any Braxton Hicks and at 3am there were just mild period pains and no back ache. Between 3am and 7am I stayed in bed, put on my rainbow relaxation audio and listened to affirmations. Within the first hour the intermittent period pain type feeling became regular – approximately every 10-12 minutes for a minute and with the breathing techniques it was totally manageable. At around 7am we called Southmead and they said to call back again once the surges were 4-5 minutes apart - we said at this stage that we if possible we'd like the birthing pool. I had a bath at home between 7-9.30am and continued to use my breathing techniques and listen to some nice music. At 9.30, the surges quickly ramped up and suddenly I went from 7-8minutes apart to 4-5 and the intensity of the surge really increased. We spoke to the hospital again and they said to take our time but to make our way in. Within 5 minutes the surges quickened to every 2 minutes and my instinct was that things really were moving at pace and we needed to get to hospital! Adam, bless him, was then in a bit of a panic finishing the play list, packing the hospital bag and trying to get some breakfast together (which we had to abandon in the toaster as I suddenly felt the urge to push!).
Luckily we live a 5 minute drive from the hospital – once we got there I was examined and I was 9cm dilated and the urge to push was definitely there! Luckily for me the birthing pool was free and they filled it up and I got in. I was really happy with the ambiance they’d created in the room – the midwife led centre at Southmead is temporarily closed, but they’ve transformed some of the central delivery suite rooms to reflect a more ‘tranquil’ environment. The lighting was low and they had fake candles and mats on the floor, aromatherapy, with almost all the medical equipment removed. From then onwards it was three hours of intense surges, but with some (OK maybe a lot!) gas and air, I breathed/pushed her out in the pool. The midwives helped ease her into the pool and then told me to look down – she was there looking up at me! I scooped her up and then we had instant skin to skin in the pool. It was magical!
Anyway – I wanted to write this to let mums-to-be know that some births can be really great. It was painful (especially when birthing her head!) but for me manageable by being focused on breathing and staying calm. I heard so many horror stories when I was pregnant, but having done the hypnobirthing course I went into my labour really positive and excited and calm. I have no idea whether I was always destined to have an ostensibly straightforward birth, but I felt that the breathing techniques and mind set I’d learnt and adopted from the Mongon method really helped me cope with the experience.
Good luck to all mums out there with their births! "
"I wanted to say thank you because the yoga practice was incredibly helpful to me in delivery... thank you!"
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